Instead of criticizing, find out how to help.

Here’s a hard truth. Too often, too many of us are quick to criticize. To complain about things, we do not like; and to whine about how we wish things were. We are overly critical (expressing adverse or disapproving comments or judgments) ….of others. Yet, the reality is–You judge what you are. I know. That’s a hard pill for many of us to swallow. I’ve been there. Forgive Everything. Regret Nothing.  

The criticism, we are so quick to hurl at another, is really how we feel about ourselves. It’s those open wounds that are seeking our attention, but we continue to ignore. We blame the discomfort on that stuff out there. If only people were more understanding, agreeable or cooperative. If only it was not so cold outside. If only my children would listen to me, as I KNOW. The IF ONLYs are ENDLESS. And 10/10 times, you can’t do a damn thing about them.

You have zero control if and how another understands. You have null power over the weather! And good luck with them kids! Cause you will need it, daily. Forgive Everything. Regret Nothing.   

Instead of living in the land of IF ONLYs, all we really need to do is tend to our own wounds and give them the attention they need and deserve.  Otherwise, as we journey through this life, we mindlessly derail and unnecessarily stall our progress towards living healthy, whole, and peaceful lives. And right now, more than ever, the world needs more healthy, whole, and peaceful humans.

Here’s another big pill to swallow—It’s IMPOOSSIBLE to achieve the highest version of yourself if only you remain critical…. of YOU! It ALWAYS starts with you.

So how do you do this? You ask. Here’s the answer. With hard work and discipline!

Discipline is freedom. And everything you want is on the other side of HARD! Sorry, but it’s the TRUTH.

The hard, painful, discomfortable truths you don’t want to admit about yourself, YOU MUST. Forgive Everything. Regret Nothing.

I heard someone say, “Life improves in lockstep with your willingness to invite hard into your life.” Yep, you must choose to invite it. You invite the hard knowing that discomfort is the price you pay for a better life. You invite discomfort knowing that pain is the catalyst for growth. You invite the TRUTH with the understanding that despair leads to repair. Forgive Everything. Regret Nothing.

Here’s the good news—-Short-term discomfort will bring you long-term benefits. This I KNOW for sure.

So, here’s the assignment. Start with you, boo. And recognize that EVERYONE, including YOU, has a tick! We all have something that we have not fully healed that triggers us and leads us traveling down the road of IF ONLYs. If this is you, and most likely it is 😊 (BECAUSE WE ALL HAVE SOMETHING!), make a quick U-turn to start heading in the right direction. All you need to do is…..be in the moment and allow all that is. Allow what is, to be. And then meet that truth with kindness, tenderness, and love. Forgive Everything. Regret Nothing.

Instead of criticizing, find out how to help. How to help yourself! Because those people and circumstances out there, ain’t got shit to do with your crazy! :). Forgive Everything. Regret Nothing

Be blessed.

with love, indigo reign